You've obviously sorted this out now; sorry for the delay in getting back to you. But yes, ignore the one to the earthing ring and connect the other two together. There's a positive wire to the fan and the fan's negative wire gets connected to the chassis via the switch.
These switches are quite easy to get hold of as they fit many cars not just Lancias.
Thanks Thotos! Update: I found a switch that fits (box says it's for an Alfa 145/146/155), off course I had to change the wiring, but when I let the car warm up on my driveway, the fan cut in nicely. However, after that I had a long drive on the motorway and all was looking very nice, but the moment I got in city traffic, the temperature gauge moved all the way to the right again, and, thinking the fan wasn't working again, I used my manual override switch, but this had almost no effect and after I had let the engine cool down, the expansion tank was empty again... I think there is something seriously wrong (the pressure in the cooling system seems abnormally high)

I'm going to try to take the car to the garage one of these days to have some tests done!