Hi
Relay arrived and had a quick play, wiring above proved incorrect, details on connection were somewhat misleading from the circuits I looked at.
So my final connections were
I - intermittent wipe enable - needs 12V to activate it so use Red wire
31 - GND so use Yellow
53M/53E - Pulse output so connect to wiper start so use Blue/White
53S/31B - This is the confusing one, needs to be connected to GND to get pulses on 53M, connect to Yellow
15 - main 12V in, so provides power to both relay and to wipers to start them, Red wire
T - washer function no use so N/C
The Blue/Black wire needs to be connected as original, ie direct to the wiper motor.
I hacked together a set of test wires direct to the wiper motor for the test, so the above is my interpretation of what I found. I was not going to be stripping out the wiring under the dash, life is too short for that when the Spider’s relay works fine. I would however be pretty confident it will work without issue.
Also this relay appears to come with various part numbers and suppliers.the only downside to it is that there is no option to allow independent mounting which would have been useful. Not sure if the orientation of the pins fit and standard relay socket.
Hope this is useful to someone in the future. I do aim to try to use it on the HPE rewiring.
Peter